I’m not sure why I decided to call them, Principles, except that calling them such helped make what had been abstract in my mind for so long, more concrete. Over time, what had begun as life lessons in my personal walk, morphed into principles that proved to be helpful in the Counseling Room. I am passing on the blessings of learning to live life well (despite the pain that inevitably is part of life) as you choose to trust God MORE. (Special thanks to those of you who have let me know of their help to you. 💜)
These are the first four Principles:
Principle #1: God convicts our hearts to draw us closer to Himself through repentance; He never “guilts” or beats up His kids.
Principle #2: The Battle is real. While Satan intends us harm, God uses the hard things for our good–to promote spiritual maturity, as we learn to trust Him more.
Principle #3: Whenever you find yourself talking to yourself, you’re probably sinning. Switch gears–and TALK TO GOD INSTEAD!
Principle #4: The Bible is not a cookbook meant to fix problems. The Bible is God’s means of extending Endurance, Encouragement and Hope to the hurting, as well equipping us to do good works.
And now, the final principle of this series:
Pray about everything.
Act out of the compassion of Christ Jesus.
This last principle has been the most challenging for me to write about. In fact, after sorting out the difference between pity and compassion, I wondered if I could even continue writing about it, because I fall so horribly short when it comes to being compassionate!
Thankfully, the Lord reminded me that I had the same struggle when writing about unconditional love:
Several years ago I struggled with guilt when I said I had forgiven someone but then caught myself entertaining some ugly thoughts about that person. (See Principles 1, 2, and 3) It wasn’t until I understood that:
While we love the idea of unconditional love (and compassion),
only Jesus can truly love unconditionally (or demonstrate compassion)
from a pure heart.
It was then I understood Jesus’s call in Matthew 11:28-30 was to a DAILY dependance on Him rather than “For Emergency Use Only”:
“Come to Me, all you who are weary and burdened,
and I will give you rest.
Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me,
for I am gentle and humble in heart,
and you will find rest for your souls.
For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”
So what is the difference between pity and compassion? I found this analysis on DifferenceBetween.net helpful*:
- Pity is the feeling of sympathy or sharing in the suffering of another human being or an animal while compassion is the feeling of mercy, empathy, and a desire to help the suffering person or animal.
- Pity is an emotion while compassion is both an emotion and a virtue.
- Pity can sometimes be tinged with contempt or dislike while compassion is part of love and is therefore free from any negative feelings.”*
It is embarrassing to admit that while I may feel sorry for others–even empathize and pray with them–I am not compassionate the way Jesus was. Consider some of these examples:
- When faced with the tears of His dead friend Lazarus’ sister, the Scriptures record simply, “Jesus wept.” and then raised Lazarus from the dead!**
- One of my favorites we look to frequently in the Counseling Room is the man who admitted his minimal faith when seeking help for his demon-possessed son–“I believe . . . help me in my unbelief!” Jesus didn’t tell him to come back when he had his life together . . . He healed his son!
- Or the story about the woman who had suffered for more than a decade with a medical issue. Not wanting to bother Him, she thought that if she, “could just touch His clothes,” she would be healed. The passage describes what happened next,
Jesus turned and saw her. “Take courage, daughter,” He said,
“your faith has healed you.” And the woman was cured from that very hour.…”
Matthew 9:21, 22
- Another passage to learn from is found later in Matthew 20:30-34,
“Two blind men were sitting by the roadside, and when they heard that Jesus was going by, they shouted, ‘Lord, Son of David, have mercy on us!’
The crowd rebuked them and told them to be quiet, but they shouted all the louder, ‘Lord, Son of David, have mercy on us!’
Jesus stopped and called them. “What do you want Me to do for you?” He asked.
“Lord,” they answered, “we want our sight.”
Jesus had compassion on them and touched their eyes. Immediately they received their sight and followed Him.
Every example demonstrates how compassion was never convenient–it would have been far easier to heal the woman and not speak to her–and required caring that was intentionally applied. Jesus gifted every need with His attention, even as the rest of the world ignored or turned their backs on them. How was this possible? Such compassion is NOT of this world.
So if the compassion demonstrated by Christ Jesus is not of this world, what are we to do? It’s a matter of having Christ in your heart through confession and faith.
Apply what has been learned from the Five Principles:
- Listen for God’s voice in the matter (#1) as you remember the on-going spiritual battle we are in (#2).
- Talk to God honestly in your struggle (#3)–thank Him for His Sacrifice on the Cross for you as you confess whatever sin that lurks in your heart.
- Give thanks that His Presence in your heart and life will provide the Courage and Strength you would otherwise lack. (#4)
- Resist pity as you pray about everything (#5)–there are a zillion “needs” confronting us every day and you and I are not the Savior. Ask God for sensitivity to His Spirit’s leading as you navigate each day.
- Put your love and commitment to Christ into action, as you love others as He has loved you.
“In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us
and sent His Son to be the sacrifice for our sins.”
All to His Glory!
*To read the rest of the article on the difference between, pity and compassion– PRESS HERE.